Approach Her Now Guided Meditations: Re-wire Your Self-talk and Inner Dialogue Related To Dating, Approaching and Girls

Hey,

I want to start by saying something important:

This product is not for everyone.

Let me explain:

If every time you think about talking with a girl, you get nervous…

That’s completely okay. 

Because, you’re thinking about doing something different from what you normally do,

Hence, feeling nervous is normal.

OR

If every time you think about approaching and talking to a girl…

Or even see a girl that you’re attracted to…

You start sweating, 

Your heart starts pounding while imagining all the possibilities of what could go wrong, 

All the possibilities where you’d end up embarrassing yourself…

That’s completely okay too. Let me explain why…

Doing new things will always bring up feelings of nervousness or anxiety for a simple reason:

You don’t know what to expect.

You are dealing with an uncertainty or unknown.

While nervousness may prepare you to learn something new,

Anxiety tries to prevent you, at all costs, from doing something new.

But in reality,

All anxiety is, is just your unconscious mind, trying to protect you from being harmed.

It’s your ‘fight or flight’ mechanism.

And once you understand and accept that, you can change your relationship to it whenever it comes up.

Can you get rid of the Approach Anxiety?

No.

You are not a robot.

You are not an AI programme.

You are a human being.

And to get rid of it would be to get rid of an aspect of your humanity… being a human being.

You just need to show to yourself, that there is no harm in talking to girls.

• You won’t die, 

• You won’t lose an arm, 
• It won't be the end of the world.

How do you do this? 

Are ready? Because it's really simple.

3, 2, 1…

You acknowledge what you are feeling, and you give yourself permission that it is okay to feel what you are feeling.

Try it for a moment and see what happens…

You see,

Once you accept what you are feeling, you begin to reduce the anxiety,

Because you begin to let go of the resistance that you have in relation to the anxiety.

Anxiety, Fear, whichever you choose to call it. Is not your enemy.

It's a not bad or wrong thing.

It's just something that comes up for you (and everyone else) when you face an uncertain situation. 

What adds to your anxiety, is your inner dialogue,

And your inner dialogue, is a collection of the thoughts you have in a conversation with yourself.

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‘Talking to a girl’ doesn’t cause you anxiety,

What you think will happen when you try talking to a girl does.

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Hence, the real solution for your Approach Anxiety is to re-educate and re-wire your unconscious mind,

So that you let go of that fear of ‘what if…’, 

Because you would understand that there is nothing to be afraid of.

So, over the 12 years I’ve been coaching guys to help them get rid of their limitations and fears to be more free,

I've noticed there are ‘two worlds’ we all have.

The External world (EW) 🔳 /// And the Inner World (IW) ◻️.

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🔳Your external world is your actions. What you actively do and create.

◻️Your inner world is a combination of your self-talk, your beliefs, your fears, your strengths (also another creation)…

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If you think you are not enough you will continue to experience the world through this context.

If you think something can be possible you will continue to experience the world through this context.

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Any meaningful change you’ve ever experienced started in one of your two worlds, and when it was ‘big enough’, it manifested in the other.

i.e As a baby, initially you couldn’t walk. 

But you saw how everyone else was able to walk, 

You had proof that walking was possible, so you tried over and over again, 

Until you were able to stand up,

And then, you were able to give little steps.

If you want to get comfortable with Approach Anxiety,

There are two ways of how you could do it:

1. You can start approaching without giving fear the time to form, 

So you eventually get familiar with the idea of approaching and talking with women,

And as a consequence, your thoughts and self-dialogue would change too. 

(EW -> IW)

Or,

2. You can start by changing your inner dialogue, 

And as a consequence, your beliefs, your fears, your limitations…

Even though you may not be used to approaching and talking to girls,

Or even if you are…

The fear won't own you anymore,

Because you’ll realise that it's okay for the fear to be there. 

And now, you will own the fear.

(IW -> EW)

Now, let’s talk about influencing your Inner World.

One of the best ways to manage your fears, and change your inner dialogue, is by meditating

Because it allows you to actively access and modify the root cause of your actions: 

Your fears, and your inner dialogue.

Triggering change from IW -> EW

Meditation can help you enter into a state of relaxation,

Or at the very least watch how your thoughts form,

Allowing you to be the observer and therefore taking ownership of your thoughts vs it being something just happening to you.

Then, you have the power to rewire or manage your thoughts and emotions.

It’s a very simple process, that takes practice.

Why this Guided Meditation?

When we try to meditate, it is very easy to go off the tracks.

We can lose focus, and as any other relevant skill, it requires a lot of practice.

What makes this guide special, 

Is that I designed it for all the clients I’ve been working with, guys like you.

To help them deal with that anxiety, 

But more than that…

It is designed to help you re-wire your self-talk,

Your inner dialogue related to dating, approaching and girls.

This is the first Meditation specifically designed for Dating and Approaching (that I'm aware of).

We will enter into your unconscious mind to let it know that whatever happens, it’s okay.

⚠️ You'll practice owning the anxiety while approaching her. Letting go of the anxiety owning you.

⚠️ You'll create a space for you and her to feel comfortable, and secure.

⚠️ You'll let go of seeking validation and approval from her.

If you follow the steps that I guide you through in the meditation,

Your relationship to anxiety will transform,

Your fears will be reduced, 

You will allow yourself to be present

And your energy will be one that exudes calmness and groundedness

That as a by-product will allow her to feel comfortable, and secure when you approach her. Allowing her to rest in her feminine. 

How should I use this Guided Meditation? 

You will get 3 different files both in Mp3 and Mp4, packed with the same words of the meditation, but designed for which mood you might find yourself in.

My recommendation is:

Start by listening and meditating very frequently in the beginning.

• Do it in the morning, 
• Whenever you start feeling anxious about talking with girls,
• Before approaches,
• After approaches
• And before going to sleep.

Then, gradually start reducing the frequency of the practice, 

As you start feeling more in control, and grounded.

In time, this will become your new normal.

I wish you well 🙏,

Ashley

PS: For the guys who feel that these 3 meditations might be something helpful for them, this product, more than a sale, is a donation to support my work, and allow me to continue providing you with valuable advice, and create other products that will be beneficial for you.

A note from the Creator:

Hey, I'm Ashley...

I have coached and helped both men and women for just over 12 years, ranging from the ages of 18 to 77, and I absolutely love what I do.

I work privately, as well as with Hayley Quinn, Kezia Noble, and Fluid Social.

I actually "fell" into coaching by just being on my own personal development journey, like you might be on, which started when I was 21.

I did this as a "shy" lone wolf, solo, by myself, which led me to meet someone who introduced me to the beginnings of coaching in this area of life.

When I'm not coaching I'm up to www.ashleylloydshaw.com.

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